RONKE OSINOWO, STRAIGHT OUT OF TILBURY TOWN
08-Jul-08 by Joe Eardly

Ronke Osinowo (pronounced ron-key) is a hip London dyke, but her latest works will speak to any fag who’s ever been stuck in a depressing rainy port town – literally or figuratively. I Bring You Tilbury Town is a collection of her poems, lists, and verbiage, with illustrations by Damilola Odusote, that conjure images of breaking free from societal and familial entrapments alike. Being born to Nigerian parents and raised by Romany gypsies, Ronke’s experience in this place may just be unique.
Joe Eardly: What did you do over the weekend?
Ronke Osinowo: I was supposed to get out of London and head down to Rye for the weekend, but it was pissing with rain. I didn’t fancy tussling with soaked old dears at the bric-a-brac shops so I had a clear out at home instead. Some shocking stuff came to light - judging by the clothes I threw out, I’m not as stylish as i’d like to think.
JE: Is anyone really? Where do you hang out in London, when you are stuck there?
RO: Well, I live quite close to Vauxhall but rarely hang out there. It’s queer heaven apparently, Fire, QN, Hoist, The Tavern, Chariots. I do like popping by Horse Meat Disco once in a while. Otherwise I’m over in the east-end since most of my friends live there. I was born in Hackney and it’s changed so much demographically. Being brought up in a council house, I see no charm living in the inner-city. Some VERY interesting people walking the streets though.
JE: Ah, our mates from Horse Meat were over here in the East Village recently. Always a good time! So where exactly is Tilbury? I imagine it’s one of those depressing minor towns where the drizzle only stops for one hour a year and everyone rushes away from their pint to have a picnic of cold roast beef sandwiches, only to find that when they arrive at the park it starts drizzling again.
RO: You’re right about depressing, for sure! It’s about 25 miles east of London and it’s a dock town. It had chronic unemployment in the ’70s and ’80s which fuelled petty and violent crime. As for being born in Hackney it was a case of out of the frying pan into the fire. There used to be huge cruiseliners docked at the port every couple of months - that’s about as close to glamor as it got. The trade sailors often got robbed and beaten by the skins whilst on shore leave and there was a safe house (knocking shop) called the Stella Maris where the sailors could stay. There were no gays in Tilbury - far too much machismo - but there were quite a few sailors and a fair share of working men’s clubs. You decide.
JE: I’m starting to understand where you got your inspiration! Did you start writing as a kid?
OR: I recently found some old letters and cards and stuff from school. Amongst the crap and the gold I found a short story I’d written about a boy who got his heart broken. It was just short of one page - I’d dated it September 1981 so I guess that’s when I started.
JE: Still into boys then, eh? How did you come about putting your book together?
OR: From the outset I always knew my family set-up was unusual but not necessarily in a good way. Growing up it was a massive hindrance because there was so much negativity thrown at you on a daily bases - whether through physical or verbal abuse, being singled out as trouble or less intelligent, being poor, being black in a white town, being black in a white town with Romany parents, not accepting what the overwhelming majority thought. It can lead you down a very rocky road and put you in a very vulnerable position.

When one of my foster brothers came up to London to study illustration I was really inspired by his work. I dug out some things I had written in Tilbury and wrote a few new things. I thought Dami’s illustrations would enhance the words I had written and give them a greater sense of atmosphere, so I showed him a few lines and he came back to me with what he thought I was trying to get across.
JE: It makes sense that the poems and illustrations were conceived and created together – they’re beautifully interwoven throughout the book. I especially like ‘Woodland’ – it’s something everyone can relate to, but especially growing up a poof!
RO: It’s true what they say: you can’t escape your past - but I’ve found this expression applies largely to people who have experienced something in their past that was particularly unpleasant – people with pasts they want to escape from. If your memories of the past are rosy, this kind of phrase wouldn’t necessarily be in your consciousness. My past haunts me because the things that happened shaped me, but they were not things that I would ever like to experience again. The thought of returning to that state has not been fully exorcised from my mind.
JE: What is your relationship like now with Tilbury Town? Do you visit there often? What is it like?
RO: My relationship with Tilbury stopped when my foster parents died in 2006. They did an amazing job with such little resource or support. Tilbury is unique and an Everytown at the same time. Seeing some pictures recently, it was difficult to distinguish when they were taken – it could have been the ’60s, ’70s, ’80s or ’90s – turned out they were taken just a few weeks prior. That pretty much sums up Tilbury for me – its insularity makes for slow progress. There are some pictures at damilolaa.com - you can see for yourself.
JE: Are you reaching out to other kids in towns like Tilbury?
RO: I think some of the stuff is very personal yet at the same time very accessible to anyone who has felt like an outsider. I wrote the book to try and make sense of things that were going on in my life at the time and to prove that something creative can come from a rubbish situation. What I’ve been hearing from people who have read the book is that they can relate to what is being expressed even though their situations may be very far removed.
JE: I’d say that’s accurate – there is a real sense of trying to break free or escape throughout the book, and who hasn’t felt that when growing up? I got a kick out ‘Rules’ – it pretty much sums it all up.
RO: ‘Rules’ originated because I had to have some kind of mantra for surviving (that wasn’t drug or alcohol related). I tried to fit in (impossible), tried to be “good”, tried to be what I was told I should be and none of it worked. I was despairing and felt like I was being slowly crushed. We learned to fend for ourselves at a very early age and ultimately for me, things became easier to deal with when I followed rule 1.
JE: So speaking of all this escape, is there somewhere you would like to go?
RO: Space would be nice, but I’d prefer to be teleported than sit on a shuttle going stir crazy. That’s outer space by the way, not the club in Ibiza – though that would be a laugh as well. That was a random question!
JE: Are you a poet? Do you know it?
RO: I wouldn’t be so bold as to call myself a poet. Maybe one day. I’m more of an observer. I’m particularly fascinated by what motivates people. I always want to see behind the veil.
JE: Or through the glory hole?
RO: Well everybody loves cock, don’t they?
JE: What does cock culture mean to you?
RO: As far as cock culture goes, I think it’s in a period of transition. In my world, cocks are not synonymous with men, though I do have friends who would (and do) bend over backwards for it.
JE: For an East Village boy?
RO: Hot hot hot!






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